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Sibling Squabbles

October 15, 2017

“Squabbles between siblings are inevitable and necessary. The less I do, the better.” Many parents are surprised to hear my advice on how to handle sibling rivalry.  And most parents I hear from are exhausted from the job they have taken on as referee.  Trying to referee doesn’t work and in fact can increase the […]

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Distraction as a Discipline Tool? Um, No.

July 20, 2017

Notice how once a baby learns to crawl she gets her hands on everything in sight?  It’s a wonderful moment for your baby but parents scramble to figure out what to do about this little octopus.  “We just distract him away from the cord to play with something else,”  one father told me.”It works most […]

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Welcome to Raymond Parenting

July 5, 2017

Welcome! If you’ve just recently signed up to receive my blog, I hope you enjoy what you find here.  This edition is focused on new research relevant to your family, your baby, toddler or preschooler.  The research topics I’ve linked to below have all appeared in major, peer-reviewed journals on early childhood.  Still, one study […]

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The “Only Child” Decision

June 29, 2017

I am an only child. Growing up, I never considered myself to be disadvantaged or lonely. I enjoyed my own company and didn’t go to preschool (times were different then). Nor did I have play dates set up for me to learn to “socialize” (parents thought we learned that naturally- turns out they were right). […]

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Dramatic Changes for New Parents

May 30, 2017

The crossover line is thin. Very thin, in the sense that one day you are still a member of the Pregnancy Club where you’ve gotten to know some new friends, bought new clothes and with whom you’ve been enrolled in a 9-month course on birth and delivery, with enough books to last through three deliveries. […]

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Surviving Mother’s Day

May 12, 2017

In many homes I know Mother’s Day will go very smoothly this Sunday.  Dad and baby/kids, maybe nanny  will work together, think ahead and everyone may feel excited about breakfast and giving mom some home-made gifts. I hope this might be true in your house this Sunday. There are other sides of this Hallmark holiday, […]

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Planning for Sleep With a New Baby

February 9, 2017

Most parents arrive home with their new baby in various states of bliss, nervousness and amazement.  This change has happened so quickly and it seems like instantly you need to deal with how to feed, diaper issues and crying.  Even parents who have meet with me while still expecting and have learned about Sleep from […]

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You May Not Want to Read This…

October 26, 2016

…if you are a camera-clicking parent. Turns out that a high percentage of camera-clicking parents are unwittingly teaching their child that he/she is the centre of the universe. Kevin Van Tighem, (Alberta Views Magazine, November 2016) spent 30 years studying nature in western Canada’s parks. Recently he observed the following scene: “A little boy leaned […]

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Night Guide to Potty Training

October 17, 2016

The house is quiet, kids are asleep…until your 2.5 year old starts screaming that she needs to go potty! Wait! Wasn’t it only two hours ago you heard that same scream, got up, took her to the bathroom, counted out the number of toilet paper squares, wiped her, praised her looked into the potty for […]

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Age 1-8 years: Ten Tips for Successful Discipline

August 14, 2016

So many books!  Assertive Discipline for Parents, Positive Discipline, Raising a Self-Disciplined Child, Happiest Toddler on the Block, Mindful Discipline…and the list goes on. Some of these books are excellent. Some are average, and many will contradict each other.  So, in case you don’t have time to do a comparative study of them all, my […]

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Helping Your Child Learn to Play – Independently

July 3, 2016

Adam’s mother Lindy started spending a lot of time on the floor playing with Adam from about 5 months of age on. It was fun at first and made her feel like a good parent. After a few months, though, she found that her mind wandered and she admitted with some guilt that she didn’t […]

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Potty Training? It should take longer than you think

June 14, 2016

Laurie was 2 years, 2 months when her parents decided she was “ready for potty training.” Several signs listed in a book were present and their first child was this age when they started and although it had been a struggle at times, he was now using the toilet well at 3.5 years. Dr. T […]

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