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In Parenting, It’s How You Say It That Counts.

Posted October 21, 2011

"Oops, it looks like you forgot the no hurting rule."

"You have a very smart body.  Your body knows when to pee and when to go poo and it always feels better after that."

"Here we are at preschool.  What do you need to remember today." (no pushing/no grabbing)

"If you throw sand again, we will go home."

"It can be hard going to bed but your smart body knows when it's tired.  I love you and I'll see you in the morning."

"It looks like you aren't hungry right now.  I'll put your plate away and you can let me know if you want it back a little later."

"It's cold outside today.  Do you want to wear your jacket or have it in the bag?  It's your choice."

"I know!  Sometimes our hands just don't want to share. But you are in charge of your hands, so you can help them remember."

"It's time to go inside.  Do you want to walk or shall I carry you?"

"Every day it will get easier for you to remember that rule."

"It's really important for the door to stay closed (locked) all night long in order to keep you safe.  I'll open it at breakfast time."

"It's OK to cry because crying will actually help you fall asleep sooner.

" You are doing a really good job."

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Self-Esteem in Young Children - The PItfalls of Working Too Hard On This

Posted July 3, 2011

I've been lying on beaches and having blessed time alone and with extended family for the last two weeks. Now I'm in BC ready to do some sailing (solo with my husband Scott) for almost two more weeks. Several parents have wondered why no Telephone Consultation dates are posted during this time. Phone Consultations are available again beginning on the 18th of July.  Check here for available dates. (Looks like July 18 is fully booked already.)

Unlike parents of young parents, I've had time to read on my holiday!  There is one particular article  from The Atlantic Magazine that I'm anxious to have you read. The points made here should ring true for all of us even though much of it applies to your future efforts to raise children to be "happy" --while it applies very well to my past efforts to raise "happpy" children.  Let me know what you think about the points made in this article.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/print/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/

 

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Kitty Raymond

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Creating Secure Infant Attachment (video)

Posted March 13, 2011

This wonderful video on Attachment is the very best I've run across anywhere.  Here, Dr. Jeanne Segal expresses beautifully the gradual, mutual process of falling in love that happens between a baby and parent.  You'll see that as you bond with your baby you needn't worry about whether your baby is breast-fed or bottle-fed or sleeps right next to you.  You'll see caregiving fathers feeling the same kind of reciprocal love as caregiving mothers will.  Also, Segal describes some "red flags" that can arise in some situations where the attachment process may be interrupted.  She is very clear on how to get help in these situations. 

Segal wisely presents interviews with prominent leaders in the field of Attachment which add immensely to our confidence.  Even if your child is no longer new-born, I urge you to watch this informative video and at the end, become acquainted with her excellent, non-profit site http://www.helpguide.org/ 

Use this link to view the video on her website.  Please add a comment afterwards, on my site,  to let me know what you think about this video and the ideas presented.

Kitty Raymond

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