Posted October 25, 2011
Mon, Oct 24 - Potty training tips from pediatric behavioral specialist Kitty Raymond
Posted October 21, 2011
"Oops, it looks like you forgot the no hurting rule."
"You have a very smart body. Your body knows when to pee and when to go poo and it always feels better after that."
"Here we are at preschool. What do you need to remember today." (no pushing/no grabbing)
"If you throw sand again, we will go home."
"It can be hard going to bed but your smart body knows when it's tired. I love you and I'll see you in the morning."
"It looks like you aren't hungry right now. I'll put your plate away and you can let me know if you want it back a little later."
"It's cold outside today. Do you want to wear your jacket or have it in the bag? It's your choice."
"I know! Sometimes our hands just don't want to share. But you are in charge of your hands, so you can help them remember."
"It's time to go inside. Do you want to walk or shall I carry you?"
"Every day it will get easier for you to remember that rule."
"It's really important for the door to stay closed (locked) all night long in order to keep you safe. I'll open it at breakfast time."
"It's OK to cry because crying will actually help you fall asleep sooner.
" You are doing a really good job."
Filed under: Interesting Parenting Matters
Posted October 12, 2011
I'm an only child. A singleton. A 'lonely only." I always smile when I hear people use those terms to refer to a childd who has not brothers and sisters. Was I lonely? Absolutely not. In fact, I quite loved being the only child, primarily because I didn't have any other experience to compare it with. My mother stayed home as most women did in those days and while she was never my playmate, she often had really great ideas of things I could do to have fun and entertain myself. She told me how to set up a tent over 4 chairs and suggested I bring my dolls in there and she would serve my lunch in my "fort" or "hospital" or whatever I was calling my hideaway that day.
My cousin lived down the street (those were the days) and soon I was able to walk there by myself. We played dolls and pretended a lot but I was always happy to go back home try out some of my cousin's imaginative friends - on my own.
I believe one reason I felt so content is that my parents never felt sorry for me about my "only" status. My mother didn't go out of her way to find playmates for me but I could have one if I wanted. I dont' remember ever hearing her tell any other parent (in a low voice) that she couldn't have any more children and therefore I was (doomed?) to have no sisters or brothers.
I know that many people grow up feeling tremendously grateful for their brothers and sisters and can't imagine childhood without them. Others, not so much. I would like to know about you. Were you an only child and was that a happy state or were you sometimes lonely. And if you've decided (or found out) that one child is the perfect size for your family - do you sometimes feel sorry for your "only" child and feel you'll need to go out of your way to make up to her or him for that?
Please write me a note about your experience.
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