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As Only A Parent Can

July 22, 2015

From the time you first bring your newborn home, depending on your perspective you either have “one very short year” or “a whole, long year” to spend with your baby before your mat leave will end. Twelve months to shape this baby’s start in life, forge your own relationship, explore the pleasures of parenting and… […]

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Acid Reflux and Sleep

July 13, 2015

Acid Reflux and Sleep Dear Kitty We have a 3.5 month old baby.  She spits up a lot and is fussy, doesn’t sleep well and seems to have a lot of gas.  Our doctor says she may have acid reflux.  The doctor suggested we treat it with Gaviscon and we plan to try that.  However, […]

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My Personal Story from Twelve Years Ago

May 19, 2015

  This is it. Tonight, my daughter and son-in-law will fly home on a plane and take over these two adorable, addictive, all-absorbing children. It will feel bittersweet – bitter because we’ve had so much fun cooking together, having a picnic in the back yard, using the potty, reading Horton the Elephant over and over, […]

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Saying Sorry

May 1, 2015

Gabby is a feisty three and a half year old girl, with a new sibling on the way.  She is at an stage when a child may test  parents  with all the ways she has found to manipulate them.  One of her strongest attempts comes after or even during a temper tantrum as she yells […]

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Five Questions To Ask About Sleep Training

April 20, 2015

  Some parents feel very uneasy about starting to sleep-train their baby or toddler.  They wonder if their child is ready and they wonder if they are ready.  It feels like a very big step – yet staying with the status quo means the family continues to feel disrupted and sleep-deprived.  If this uncertainty feels […]

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Sleepless Dad in BC

April 13, 2015

Dear Kitty,

My wife and I live in British Columbia and our daughter just turned one year.  That is exactly the length of time since we had a good night’s sleep!  We’ve tried so many things, read Dr. Richard Ferber’s book and M. Weissbluth’s book but our daughter simply screams her head off and seems to get worse with each night.  We finally give in and once we put her into our bed, she’s sound asleep.  You might wonder why we don’t just do that every night?  Trouble is she is restless.  She rolls around, kicks and pushes.  We heard about you from a friend in Calgary and right now we feel you may be our last chance to ever be sane again.

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What’s The Hardest Part of Sleep-Training a Baby?

April 1, 2015

The hardest part of sleep- training a baby is making the decision to do it in the first place.  If you are like most parents you wait until you are really desperate to finally say “I can’t do this any more!” The Problem In the first weeks it’s so tempting and it’s a lovely feeling […]

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Playing Alone Carries Special Value for a Child. Imagination develops faster during solitary play than when playing with others.

March 24, 2015

Jamie was about 2.5 or 3 years when his mom decided he needed a playroom.  As an only child, he had most of the house to play in but he always wanted his mother to play with him. She did, quite a lot, but eventually she would grow tired of playing and needed to get […]

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A Good Week With Parents

March 8, 2015

I love looking back on a week of successful conversations with parents.  This week I talked with parents of of a three year old boy who was …spitting at them whenever they said “no” to some demand of his. I spoke with parents of an 8 month old baby who used to be an excellent […]

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Toddler Biting? Expert help from Kitty Raymond

February 23, 2015

“OW!” is usually the first word out of a parent’s mouth when a beloved toddler, determined to experiment with her mouth, chomps down on mom’s shoulder.  It hurts and is shocking and it’s very hard not to take it personally. How to react if your child bites you First say a loud “Ow!” This is […]

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Unquestioned Leadership

February 20, 2015

Mathew, age 3, is yelling at his mother.  He doesn’t want to go to bed.  He has been lining his trucks up making a ‘truck stop’ and he isn’t finished.  His mother has already given him 10 extra minutes and now it’s past bedtime.  She is pleading with him and soon resorts to threatening.  “If you don’t come now, you won’t be able to use your bike tomorrow or go to Gregory’s house to play!  I’m warning you!”

 

This is a huge, nightly power struggle between Matthew and his mother.  Matthew’s reasons are different each night but the result is the same.  Mom gives Matthew a heads up about bedtime approaching and Matthew begins to dig in his heels.  Soon mom is reminding him that the time is getting shorter…begins to nag him about putting his toys away “NOW!” Soon Matthew is yelling, “You can’t make me!”

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